Proposing is better than Quoting.

I am a little fixated on quotes right now. Earlier this week I wrote about how bad they were. (Read it here.) And then I did something really silly. I asked my members to each send me a copy of their latest quote to a client. In return I promised each a free quote overview and upgrade, as part of their membership.

Let me explain.

You spend some money each month on marketing. (Marketing is a polite word describing all the things you do to get people to knock at your door because they have a problem that you can solve.) And you spend more money on selling. (Selling covers all the things you do to turn that door-knocker into a paying client.)

Day in and day out these processes work towards you being able to “quote” the client. That “quote” is like a marriage proposal, after a long (and often arduous) pursuit.

As an aside, I have some experience in marriage proposals. I have proposed just four times.  I was accepted three times. In one case I was gently reprimanded for delivering the worst proposal the future Mrs Carruthers had ever heard, and, it appears, she was somewhat of an expert on the matter. She suggested I polish it up a little and come back the next week. I did.

The point of all the expensive activity, this marketing and selling stuff, is to be asked for a “quote”, or, as I prefer to call it, the “proposal”.

As I write this I have 100 such proposals sitting in my inbox. Some are wonderful, easy to read, clear and to the point. Those three work very, very often. The rest are a very mixed bag, some of which redefine one’s level of archaic.

Please bear in mind that these are sales proposals written by folk just like you and me. Wonderful people who make and sell fine products and services. But cannot write for toffee. This means that too many of their business efforts die in the bin when their prospects cannot open their proposals, or see a disconnect between what they see and what is being promised.

In the absence of something to touch, feel, or smell – the little things we see are the only way a buyer can assess your offer. Little things like your proposal. That proposal is the lynchpin of your business.

The best way I can demonstrate this is to ask you to check out the website of my favourite sleeping place in Cape Town: Jambo. I have mentioned it often. The site is elegant and eclectic, like the room I stay in, and like Barry & Mina. Each time is a new experience.

Then look at their old website from earlier this year. (It is here.) The cost of upgrading the website to reflect the experience was minuscule.  The establishment is the same. But a prospect now gets a much, much more accurate reflection of the experience.

Most buyers are far more worried about avoiding risk than they are about optimising enjoyment. And the slightest dissonance can send them to the fellow outside with a service that sucks, but a heck of a proposal. (That, by the way, is why many prospects buy from other suppliers.)

Hire me for the next month, for just $21.97, and I will help you upgrade your “quote” to a proposal as well. If you find enough value to stick around for another month, you do not have to do anything. If not, a simple email will cancel. Please join me here.

Whether you use me or not, your proposal is worth a second look. It is the lynchpin connecting your marketing and selling to your bank balance.

(Just to clear the air – I had nothing to do with the new Jambo website, but I think it is gorgeous, just like the place.)

Emailing Quotes does Not Work.

I cannot guarantee this, but after seeing 350,000 Google enquiries wasted, I am pretty sure. After working through this email quote approach with more than 50 clients these past few months, I know how easy it is to double their sales. That’s a good thing because it pays for their first year of Business Warriors in their first month.

I don’t know about you, but selling is a lot more fun when people actually purchase. And the more often that happens, the more fun it is.

It isn’t just the money. It is the people. Business is all about relationships, about understanding people. You can get some theory from books, but the real learning happens in the ring. As it were.

Which brings us back to that emailed quote. That document is not personal. It is like being invited out on a date by Miss SA, and at the appointed time sending an SMS describing my attributes. And this while Antonio Banderasis riding by on his horse. In other words, I cannot expect a second chance.

Almost every quote I see needs help. This is because it is not designed as a sales document. It is not so much a love letter as it is an Pre-Nuptial Contract. Hint: A date and some love letters usually precede the Contracts.

The quotes are usually sent out prematurely. At the time that we send them we don’t yet know nearly enough about the prospect, her challenges, her needs, and the issues that bother her most. Usually they are just templates, and the only thing that changes is the Dear Jane at the top. (And if we use Dear Sir/Madam we don’t even have to do that.)

She knows this because she gave us a few vague details, yet our response includes our entire catalogue.  Most quotes do not ask her for the sale. Nor do they tell her exactly what she needs to do to, you know, actually make the purchase.

This is tough enough when we are selling products, stuff she can see, feel, and smell. It is worse when we are selling services. And it is much worse when we are selling experiences. An experience is a customised service. For instance, a night at City Lodge is a service, while a stay at Jambo is an experience.

Without something she can touch, feel or smell, our email quote is a sad proxy. And in the absence of any other way to trust what we offer, every spelling mistake sucks the life out of our promise of excellent service. Every bad picture sucks away a little more. As does the design which predates the Internet. And when our email quote is a Word or excel document, which she cannot open, well, there is always Antonio moseying by.

The only folk who can afford to not take their selling personally are those fine folk working for large firms which encourage them to leave their personalities at the door before checking in. They get paid, sale or not. But that’s a good time for you to be the person on the horse, isn’t it?

Take a lot more money home by selling like a pro

Peter CarruthersHello. I am Peter Carruthers. May I re-introduce myself?

I have helped thousands of small business owners since 1992. At first I focused on helping them survive business closure. I realised that: Almost none of their businesses would have had to close if they had made enough sales.

Even now, almost every business problem I see results from too little income flowing into a business. This is almost always caused by too few sales. Business Warriors exists to help you make more sales: So that your business makes enough profit for you to live well, and leads you to true independence.

I focus on business owners (most of whom don’t much like selling) and I welcome anybody else who needs inspiration and help selling enough to make a wonderful living.

You will get a daily nudge that keeps you focused on selling, no matter how busy you are

I bet you did not start your business expecting to face the myriad daily challenges you now face?

Just one thing holds you back from consistent success: More sales.

And “More Sales” starts with “Just One More Sale“. It’s like that old adage about eating an elephant: Take one bite at a time. And that’s what Business Warriors membership will do for you. Imagine just one more sale today, then tomorrow, then the day after, …

You don’t need great selling skills, although I will share those with you.

You don’t need great marketing skills either, although I will share those with you as well.

All you need to do to make just one more sale today is to sit down and do it. And that is where I really can help you.

Each morning I will email you an idea that is worth just one more sale.

That email is a tiny bite of sales or marketing guidance. You will be able to read it in less than five minutes. But it will prompt you to take a few minutes to focus on just one more sale. And that is exactly what will happen: Just one more sale. And that’s a little more money in the bank. Then we do it again tomorrow. Small bites, short focus, many sales, and your dreams fulfilled from your desk.

You can share these with any relevant person on your business, because everyone has some contact with clients.

You get personal training and consulting that addresses your unique issues

mike-lawrie-comment.pngMany of my clients face challenges that need more personal attention.

If this happens to you just email me about the problem. (I read my own mail so it is always confidential.)

I will schedule a time to talk via Skype and we will discuss the issue until you are comfortable to carry it to the next stage.

If I notice a trend, with a few members facing a similar problem, I will schedule a webinar to deal with it “Live”.

One of the benefits of this kind of consulting approach is that I can cross-pollinate ideas across industries, creating approaches that are truly unusual. In tough markets this leads to impressive sales increases.

You get a weekly sales training course that enhances your skills

Each week I do an hour of live training online. I also record each session as a video for online viewing on demand, or for download.

This training happens in short bursts, which makes it much easier for you to assimilate each lesson, and apply it in your own business. Rather than trying to remember an entire day of theory to apply in your next meeting.

This means that for the price of a single offline sales seminar, you get 52 hours of training focused on improving your selling and marketing skills in small nudges over each year.

And, you pay in small monthly chunks as well , as you learn and implement, rather than pay one outlandish fee up front..

It also means that you can raise issues pertinent to your own industry, anonymously, in front of a group of small business peers. It’s wonderfully sobering to see what 100 others think about your new sales presentation, or your new USP (Unique Selling Proposition), or your new website.

You can also share these videos with anyone in your firm who you think might benefit.

$21.97 per month makes me your own personal sales guide with thirty years of selling experience in small business, and with a strong pedigree in helping small businesses. You will get a huge increase in sales, starting immediately.

If you are ready to start selling like a pro, no matter how poor your sales skills, go here. If you want to know more, go here.

South African Business Culture

A country is not about the space, the sea, the views, or the wildlife. A country is about its people. The average South African is so used to being crazy-friendly that he has no idea how strange it seems to the reclusive folk who live in lesser climes.

I thought this as I boarded the plane from a chaotic OR Tambo airport, with bongoes blaring in one corner of the departure lounge, and some fellow close by straining his lungs to be heard on his 850 watt PA system as he extolled the virtues of buying Givenchy gifts for Mothers Day, please.

Fourteen hours later I landed at the Oslo interpretation of an airport. Cleaner, colder, and almost silent. Just as Frankfurt had been a few hours earlier. Frankly, I am in favour of the vibrancy.

Ask any foreigner what they most like about SA, and they will tell you it is how easily we smile.

As I left Sandton City, en route to the airport, I passed a FASA convention. It occurred to me that I had never seen such a thing in Norway, quite possibly because no sane Norwegian wants to work for himself. It is too risky. (This is what happens in socialist countries.) I loved the noise inside. I loved meeting old friends. But mostly, I loved seeing so many people desperate to do their own thing.

I have found that the toughest aspect of living in the UK and Norway has been the utterly different cultures; both as far from our SA culture as Baileys is from yaks milk.

Someone very wise told me a few weeks ago that when I left SA I left behind most of my capital. He pointed out that my real capital was not money, but the knowledge gained over many years about the way we do business in SA, and business networks that I was part of. Neither of these travel well. The way people conduct business overseas is a reflection of their culture. And nobody is anywhere nearly as enthusiastic or optimistic as South Africans are.

It is that optimism and enthusiasm that gets us up each morning, knowing that today will be better than yesterday, no matter how bad the outlook might otherwise be. We are not a glass-half-empty nation. We are a glass-and-half-full crowd.

With wonderful weather, great scenery, and the Big Five, nogal. Which is why I am coming back.

How Taking Pictures Saves Money.

Those of us who grew up with Bakelite rotary phones still think an iPhone is the same thing, just more portable.

This came to me earlier this week as I rented a car at Cape Town International. My phone has a camera, as I suspect yours does. I took a picture of my new rental parked in its bay. Then I took pictures of all four sides, and the top. Then I looked for any scratches and got some close ups. It occurred to me that car really needed some airbrushing, as I now also need, especially on close ups.

I ignored the locals muttering about cartons in Afrikaans, even though I did feel quite silly. And I finished with another picture of the car still parked, showing the cars and bay numbers surrounding it.

I did this all of this because this same company, just the day before, had refunded the R3000 they had billed to my credit card for scratches on the car I had rented three weeks previously for 22 hours in Johannesburg. I had expected to pay just R300.

In that case I had arrived from Oslo, via Frankfurt, a little vexed because my suitcase been delayed in a German basement. I knew I should take pictures, but the young man behind the counter had told me that the scratches on the left hand side of the car were already noted in their system.

Clearly the fellow that checked the car back in the next day was not working from the same system. Two weeks later the firm billed me for, you guessed it, scratches on the left hand side of the car. By golly, scratches turn out to be very expensive to repair.

A few detailed emails later and the issue was resolved. And that was the reason I was using this same firm again. Not a fly-by-night firm, mind you, one of the international greats. The same firm I have been using for more than 25 years. And this had been the first time I had ever had a problem.

I thought about this as I drove 100 very careful km over the next 48 hours. When you normally drive on the other side of the road, as one is encouraged to do in Norway, one tends to focus a little more than the hordes of wannabe formula one drivers who frequent the highways and byways of this fairest Cape.

You can imagine my surprise, as I dropped the car off this morning, when I was asked about the scratches below the driver’s door of the VW his colleagues had loaned me on Sunday.

I gave him a copy of the contract. The check out clerk had listed the wear and tear of the vehicle on it. She told me she had. I know you know what happened next. Yep, no mention of these scratches.

Ian Fleming, in Goldfinger, says that ” Once is happenstance. Twice is is coincidence. And the third time is a conspiracy.” I chose coincidence, and instead of jumping up and down, I trumped his scratches with my pictures, still fresh on my phone.

Soon we had the supervisor enter the discussion. And, and this is the key point of this email, the only reason he accepted my pictures as valid proof of my innocence was because my close-up of the scratches was preceded and followed by pictures of the car in the parking bay on Sunday.

My advice in future: Who cares if you look a tad strange as you take snaps of the car from every which-way. Especially if you have to use the flash at night. You are guilty until you can prove your innocence. Those pictures do just that.

Am I going to wait for the third time? I don’t know.

After 25 years of great service this firm has changed a process. And it hurts clients. When next you hire a car take lots of pictures of the car and its friends. It is going to save you time and money.

Want a Daily Sales Idea, for Free?

A few weeks ago I began writing a Daily Sales Idea for my clients at Business Warriors. It arrives each morning, before their day has gone to the dogs. It is short and concise, and needs no more than 5 minutes to read and do.

Those folk who have read these short, early-morning ideas, have already started selling more products and services.

Please go here to get these daily sales ideas early each morning for the next five weekdays. There is no cost and no obligation. Apply these simple ideas and you will sell more this week, next month, and for every year that you continue in business.

But, please do it right now. This list will close at midnight tonight (Tuesday April 23). The sequence starts tomorrow (Wednesday) and ends next Tuesday.

Finally, if you know somebody that can use a little sales support right now, please forward this email to them.

Things a Business Owner should do Regularly

I include this article from Business Warriors in this PetesWeekly because I have had a very challenging commuting week. My suitcase decided to play hooky in Frankfurt while I arrived in Johannesburg.

By this morning I had acquired a gentle Gorgonzola-like glow. The suitcase arrived just in time to accompany me into some troubled weather in Cape Town, where I will be setting up office. My hosts insist that a bath is more important than some petty commercial scrivening, and frankly, I am all for it.

This article lists those things that Business Warriors think are worth doing periodically, even if they are cumbersome. This is because they show us the hidden health of our business before it becomes a crisis.

For instance, applying for a Tax Clearance Certificate each year is a pain, especially if you do not need it right now. But, it is the easiest way to confirm SARS regards you as up to date. (Sure you can ask them if you are, as many have done, but you cannot trust their answer, as many have found out when they desperately needed the certificate.) It can takes weeks/months to resolve the documents that SARS may have lost, or your payments that may have fallen into the wrong allocation, and when you urgently need the certificate to complete a tender that time is not available.

Next, try applying for some credit each year, like a credit card, even if you don’t need one. This instantly highlights whether somebody has snuck a judgment against you into the system. (Yes, they are supposed to warn you, but that warning seems to astray enough times for the rest of us to think it might be a conspiracy.)

Next, try checking your current business registration status each year at CIPC. (The Companies and Intellectual Property Commission. This used to be CIPRO, which still exists in hiding.) You search for your firm name in the lowest search block in the left hand menu, on this page. Recovering from de-registration is a little like trying to claim for a car accident that happens the day after your bank bounces your short-term premium. (I tried it, and it was a catastrophe.)

Next, review your BBBEE status each year. The law changes often enough to make this worthwhile. And your business keeps changing as well. Just being aware of your BBBEE rating means that you will see ways to improve it. This is like standing on a scale each morning. Just knowing what your weight is prompts you to eat a little more carefully.

Please help me help you

While I was rather ill last month, in between looking up dark tunnels with bright lights in the distance, I discovered what I was put here to do. Everything I have experienced since 1992 allows me to offer a very personal approach to your business at a ludicrously low price. You get me, personally, when you join Business Warriors. Not just general advice, but personal emails and phone calls, if needed, to discuss your unique challenges. Based on thirty years of SA business experience, UK business experience, Norwegian business experience, and Internet business experience.

Here are a few comments from Warriors:

Hey Peter. Thanks for the huge klap video #2 just gave me…sales , sales …darn I’m 52, u would think I would have got it by now. I did the post-it on the PC bit …it works ..but you know that already. I called 3 clients yesterday and converted all of them over R40k in 3 calls.
Michael J.

Hi Peter. Okay, just to say an official “thank you” for our chat today. At 13h28 today I had someone sending an email enquiring about my services. I responded with an invite at 13h51 for a chat at 17h00 today, they accepted and I have signed up the client just now ! More than the money the client will pay me, Peter, is my confidence level which has risen. Thank you again !
Toy P.

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Opportunity Abounds

It is hard to explain how happy I am to be arriving in Johannesburg on Tuesday. I will begin a month-long trip to present some live Sales Training seminars, to start setting up office again (in Cape Town) and to meet with a whole bunch of wonderful people.

Having a portable/Internet business is one thing because it allows you to live pretty much anywhere. This is great in concept. The reality, especially with small children, is very different. (Tim Ferriss made us all frothy at the thought of all this freedom with his book The 4-Hour Workweek. We were too excited to notice that he was single.)

Most of the expats I speak to share the same concerns. It is easy to think that England might be similar to South Africa, especially since they too seem to speak English. But it is miles away from SA culturally and socially. And for those of us who think of ourselves as entrepreneurs, it means learning a whole bunch of new ways of doing business. We usually do this via the time-honoured method of making staggeringly expensive mistakes.

I am convinced that the fastest way to have £1million in a bank in England is to arrive a month earlier with £2million. Although, given the words of the fellow in charge of EU finances, it is a lot better to have no more than €100,000 because otherwise you stand a solid chance of being forced to help your bank pay its bills.

In other words, while South Africans huff and grump about how bad things have become, the rest of the world has been gently teetering on the edge of a very deep longdrop which that young dude with the weird haircut in North Korea is theatening to vaporise soon.

In some ways SA reminds me of the that old sales story about the two shoe salesmen despatched to darkest Africa to check out the market.

The first sends a telegram back which reads, “No opportunity here. Nobody wears shoes.”

The second sends back a telegram which says, “Massive opportunity here. Nobody wears shoes yet.”

So, I relish coming back. Just as you should relish not leaving.

In the past week I have had one SA client pop out a marketing email (the day after a very enthusiastic sales webinar) and garner 10 sales on the first day. And another told me he was going offshore for a while because the free website process we showed him last year (and which he launched in January) had just put R250,000 into his offshore (non-Cypriot) bank for his first three months of trading. (He is a wonderful fellow but not very technical.) Opportunity abounds.

If you are finding it tough, then may I gently ask you to consider joining Businesss Warriors. In amongst all the videos and the forum, the brightest light at the moment is a daily email that in four days has started to transform the way Warriors look at, and do their selling and marketing. Check us out here.

And if you want to learn an ethical, powerful, simple, and fun way of selling - the same method that has paid my own bills since 1984 – then I would love to meet you at one of the three Virtuous Selling Skills evening seminars in early May. (Do not forget the Early Bird code which is worth $25 – EARLY):

Why do so many businesses close?

Tired of battling uphill?

Just one thing decides whether your business efforts will buy you a new house or lose you your current house. Since 1992 I have spent thousands of hours with people in the throes of closure, trying to understand why.

I used to blame the banks. They lend us money based on the assets we own, not based on our chances of success, nor on our business plans.

And I blamed the government for getting in the way.

And like most Petesweekly readers, I blamed the staff.

There is no shortage of problems and distractions that get in the way of your or my success.

But I was wrong. Those were simply distractions.

There is just one reason why small businesses fail. It’s blindingly simple. It’s obvious. In fact, it’s so obvious that you will not believe it. And the cure is so simple that you probably won’t fix it. It just cannot be that simple. It must be something more important.

I’m so convinced of this that the rest of my time as a consultant and mentor will focus on solving this challenge for each of my clients. (It is a challenge more than a problem.)

Don’t get me wrong, I’m quite happy to teach people how to negotiate with SARS, and survive the CCMA, and how to build portable income streams, along with helping sort out all the other distractions that will ultimately close your business and mine. But without this one key focus, everything else is a waste of time.

The single biggest reason for us each not prospering is that we each need just one more sale. But we are too busy doing something else to get that one more sale.

How much would one more sale be worth to you this year? Unless you are selling power stations, I suspect not high enough to get that new house. How about one more sale each month this year? Or one more sale each week this year? Or even one more sale each day this year?

One more sale! It’s that simple. The entire purpose of your business is to make just one more sale, after the sale you’ve just made, and before the next one more sale. And yet, we use every possible excuse we can find, and if we can’t find excuses we invent them, just so that we don’t have to chase that one more sale.

Why?

Because it’s so much easier to focus on real work like PAYE reconciliations. Or doing the accounts. Or planning for the future. Or doing the filing.

You see, the only person who knows that you are not selling right now is, well, you. Nobody else does. They think you are working when you sit in front of that spreadsheet. You are working, but on distractions you can do tonight, or (even better) distractions others can do for you – if you make enough sales. In the midst of all the other small turds landing on your desk, each wanting your immediate attention, it’s so easy not to make one more phone call, or send one more email. (I know, before my Ph.D in Pocrastination I Mastered in desk-turd-shuffling.)

And the better your business is doing, the easier it is to stop focusing on one more sale, because the distractions grow relentlessly. You and I did not start our businesses to shuffle turds. Give that work to someone who wants it.

I think that this is so important that each Business Warrior will get a sales reminder every single business day. It will be just one practical idea that will help make one more sale each day. It starts on Monday. I have already have this years powerful, simple, effective ideas scheduled to go. Each is easy to do, needing just a few minutes. Each will bring in at least one more sale this year. And next year. And…  Practical, simple ideas to help you make one more sale.

The only thing that is keeping the wolf from my door is that one more sale. And since you and I each face this same challenge,  what works for me will work for you. And what’s worked for my clients will work for you. The single most important thing you can do today is make one more sale. Good luck.

After four weeks of touch-and-go influenza I have not yet changed the introductory offer at Business Warriors. The price should be $29.97. It remains at $21.97 (about R200)  until end of day tomorrow.    Please join us here to see what a daily dose of “selling salts” can add to your bottom line. (And if it adds no value, ask for your money back.)

Maybe SA is not the right place to start a business?

Last week I wrote an article about how easy it is to start a business in South Africa. I fear that I must reconsider some of my words. It seems that Armageddon is nigh, and I may have to invoke Rule #6.

Firstly, about the ease of starting up. I was wrong. I am the first to admit it.

I was right about the amount of time available, but I was wrong about the quality of that time. Who wants to trade a Tuesday on the sand at Strand for the rigours of having to think about clients. Or trade the enjoyment of a medium rare fillet lunch at the local Spur for the challenges of invoicing. (A Spur is a rare gem which I have yet to see anywhere near where I have lived in Australia,England, or Norway.) I ask you, what was I thinking? I will apologise as soon as I have finished this amazing Wimpy breakfast that is so cheap that the proprietor will have to pay me to leave.

Now, to an even more serious topic: our looming Armageddon. It is real. Each of us is going to face one in the next hundred years. I doubt we will face the same one at the same time.

And yet, that is what South African newspapers sell every day, this looming Armageddon. If it isn’t the mineworkers on strike sending us a clear message that the end of SA is nigh, then it is the mine owners firing a few workers upping the nighness, or the farmworkers striking for a rise, or the farmworkers getting a rise. I could go on because Armageddon is getting more nighed by the day.

Catch a life. Not even Norwegians are so grumpy, even though they have a lot more reason.

I think we should consider Rule #6. “Don’t take life so seriously.”

I am writing this from a tree-filled courtyard in Somerset West, on my iPad, with the early morning sun streaming down. I could do this here on almost any day of the year, although I might need a jersey in July. Europeans have the iPad and the Internet access, but most do not have enough clement weather to write outside too often.

I am here on a mission to see what the future of my life will hold, a short sabbatical. (And because Mrs Carruthers suggested I needed some fresh air and Vitamin D.) After 7 years outside SA I want to find out if all that I have learned offshore has relevance to SA businesses. But getting past the national obsession with Armageddon is frustrating.

And each time I speak of the subject, I carry an elephant into the room with me. That elephant is the fact that I do not live in South Africa myself. How dare I speak on issues South African when I am so rejecting the country?

That is like asking a dying man why he is rejecting life. Each time I try and answer the question someone will interrupt with their solution, without thinking about it for more than 30 seconds. They have no inkling of the time I have thought on the subject.

In 1967 my biological Dad took a year to die, exhausting the family finances en route. Mom had to uplift her three young kids and take us to a new city (PE) where she had family to help. And then she had to put us into boarding school while she worked to support us. It was a tough time, and we each carry that memory closely. Since 1971 I have lived a life of daily insulin injections, and am nudging the further reaches of diabetic longevity.

My wife is Norwegian, as are her children, including the child we share, who has inherited her fathers curiosity and good looks. Mrs Carruthers has access to instant state help and the support of her extended family when I fall off this mortal coil. No amount of insurance could offer that kind of support, not that it is available to a diabetic. (The road out of here via diabetes is usually via a heart infaction or stroke, and usually sooner rather than later.)

Our children are settled and prospering at school and with great friends, none of which would change when I go, and all would help them. If we lived in SA and I become one with the soil, as it were, she would take the kids back to Norway. That would be a traumatic change, at a bad time. I do not want my kids to face the issues I did.

And since I rather like Mrs Carruthers, I am happy to be where she is. But the other half of my heart will always be here, no matter how much Armageddon is getting nighed.